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0:00And still, it's the neural pathway of least resistance.0:12A path you made.0:15It's the one that kept you safe when you were a child.0:22You started.0:23Alone.0:36I mean, I'm not lonely.0:39I have employees and customers.0:43I didn't say lonely.0:45I said alone.0:47I mean, I hurt people.0:52I don't want to.0:53It's just the way I'm wired, so maybe I deserve to be alone.0:57Do you think anyone deserves to be alone?1:00I don't know, but, you know, maybe it's not such a bad thing.1:05Being alone feels deeply ingrained.1:08I understand.1:10You've had dreams and a lot of resistance,1:13not a lot of support in realizing those dreams.1:17And when we've experienced hurt again and again,1:23we start to expect it.1:25It's like, oh, I know this path.1:26I know where it goes.1:29So,1:30are you interested in forging a new path1:34and see where that leads?1:36Sure.1:37Why not? You know, I'm here.1:40Great.1:41So I want to revisit1:43an exercise we've done before.1:47The role play.1:48Oh, the acting thing?1:49Yeah.1:49I feel stupid doing that.1:51I know.1:51But we have a few minutes.1:52Let's, um...1:54Yeah, let's try. A little bit.1:57All right.1:59Let's set the scene.2:01Let's go back to the night that Barbara left you.2:07You mean the night she kicked me out of my own house?2:09Yeah.2:11I'm playing myself.2:13And I'll be Barbara.2:14It is my house, by the way.2:16I'm the one paying for it.2:19I know.2:20All right.2:22Okay so um I gotten home late I don know how late She was already asleep maybe midnight She usually goes to bed before It doesn matter2:35The point is, I was in the kitchen, and, um, the glass.2:38I broke the glass, and she comes running down to see what happened,2:43and things escalated.2:46And how do you feel?2:48Well, I was... I was drunk.2:51And, um, I felt stupid.2:54I was angry because I broke the glass.2:58Can you say that to me?2:59What, to Barbara?3:05I'm sorry that I woke you.3:11Maybe if you'd come home earlier,3:13we could have spent the evening together.3:16I was working, you know.3:18I came straight home after work.3:20Be honest with me, please.3:22I can smell it on your breath.3:24I had a few beers.3:29Define a few.3:30Well, it was a hard day.3:32I needed to wind down.3:34All you ever do is wind down.3:36You're always at this door.3:42You want kids, right?3:45We both do.3:46Well, you know, having a family takes money,3:48which means someone has to work.3:50Unless being a professional student3:52is considered a job these days.3:54That's not fair. You know I had to take time off.3:56Well, it's not my fault if you can't keep up.3:57How are you gonna be a lawyer if you can't even handle law school?4:02Who do you think pays for everything while you're gallivanting around campus like a 30-year-old freshman?4:07I'll give you a hint. It's me.4:10I pay for your school. I pay for your time off school. I pay for the roof over your head.4:14Can I talk now?4:14No, no, because I'd like to know, what do you think happens if you do manage to graduate?4:18You know, you pop out a kid and then you leave me with the bill.4:20Or am I stuck at home changing diapers because you're too busy working for the first time in your life?4:26Now you're being cruel.4:27I'm being honest.4:29I thought that's what you always wanted.4:32Just because you didn't get to be an architect doesn't...4:34I am a fucking architect!4:37Goddamn it, I'm just stuck selling shit furniture because someone won't get off their fat fucking ass and help me!4:50How do you feel, Clark?4:57Who am I talking to Me here now Um I sorry5:05I didn't mean to, you know, get angry or lose my temper or whatever.5:13That's the purpose of the whole exercise.5:16This is a good start.5:18To feel what you feel and then learn to identify a new path.5:22Your reaction was actually quite normal.5:29Oh, that's me.5:32Well, ahoy there, jakeys!5:35Tired of spending your hard-earned doubloons on overpriced furniture?5:39Looking for deals that'll shiver your timbers?5:42Then come on down to Captain Clark's Ottoman Empire,5:46the Santa Clara Valley's favorite warehouse and showrooms.5:49You'll find bedrooms, living rooms, dinettes, dens, and bathrooms aplenty.5:55First-time homeowners, we've got you.5:57New parents looking for Billy's first crib, we've got you.6:01From the latest in modern design to the classic styles of yesteryear,6:05it's all here and it's all a steal.6:08What's that, Polly?6:09You're worried about credit?6:11Well, Captain Clark says no credit, no problem.6:14Sail the high seas of high quality and leave your money problems at the door.6:20Walk in today and get your dream sectional lounger, kitchen table, floor lamp and bed frame.6:25Here at Captain Clark's Ottoman Empire, located at Capitol and McKee, just off the 680.6:33Walk in today, take your feet back and enjoy an empire of your own.6:38For every Sultan deserves a throne and we've got one with your name on it here6:49No, no, it's good it's outtake stuff dude7:01Are we going again no cat you can open the store now we've been open7:08You know, dude, I still don't get it.7:12Are you like a pirate or a sultan?7:15Just be good to establish these things to shut up.7:18This cheap particle board bullshit.7:21Clear this stuff up with.7:23What about the outages?7:24That happens after hours I turn the overheads off when the store closes Before the power gets weird Anyway wouldn that just make the bills go down7:35It's not at the same time. One night I lose the power upstairs, next night it's down here. There's no7:39rhyme or...7:48Who the hell installed this thing?7:50Well, the building came wired. I mean, dated, but it's not that old.7:55Take a look at this.8:06I wasn't there before.8:09Maybe I didn't know this.8:12Like I say, I'm no expert.8:13Why is it going that way?8:16Better question, what is it even connected to?8:21Huh?8:25Cat! How's the power?8:33What?8:34Anything happen up there?8:36What the hell?8:38The rat's back.8:39But the power's on.8:40Yeah. I thought we killed the rat.8:43We killed a rat.8:45So is this the problem?8:47Don't see how.8:48The power can't even go through this part of the circuit.8:51It's just there.8:53like some schmo just stuck it in there.9:23Oh, shit.9:46Piece of shit.9:53Oh.10:00Oh, my God.10:30Your consciousness is a room full of memories that is constantly evolving.10:39You put up barriers to protect itself from the outside world.10:47It's a natural response.10:50Something we are often unaware of.10:54But if gone unchecked, it can leave you feeling trapped.10:58that you never deserve the relationships you've had.11:01Resigned to watch your life unfold from behind a lone window.11:06This side of the Rio Grande?11:07Quick.11:08Well, yee-haw, I say yee-haw!11:11Here that Big Waynes are dining in sets are gonna make you feel like you just struck gold!11:15So don't even think about going any playships!11:18Big Waynes, just look for the gold need of-11:28I'm not going to die.11:58I sorry I sorry I don know12:55I don't know.13:25I'm sorry.16:55Hello everyone!17:25My Hello18:25I want to see you next time.18:29Good.19:25I'm not a new coach, but I'm not out.19:29I think for a minute.20:30Hello?21:00Oh.21:30I'm sorry.22:00I sorry Anyone there22:55Yeah.23:25I'm sorry.23:55Oh, no!24:55I The traffic was hell and I couldn leave early25:15Let's just use the time we have.25:19How are you today, Clark?25:22How do I look?25:25A little tired, maybe?25:26I look like shit.25:28Can I ask, and there is no wrong answer here, you know that,25:31are you intoxicated right now?25:34Why you say it like that?25:37Like what?25:39I haven't had a drink since Friday.25:41Probably why I look like shit.25:43Can I ask you something?25:45Sure.25:46You ever 5150-someone?25:49A few times over the years, when it was necessary.25:53What makes it necessary?25:57If I believe that the person is a danger to themselves or others, or they're gravely disabled.26:04Okay.26:06Okay.26:10Um, I found something in the store.26:16What did you find?26:19Um, a place.26:21I've...26:22I found a place.26:26A place?26:28It's like, um...26:30It's like the store just, uh...26:33Continues, I guess.26:35You know, like there's a wall,26:37and on the other side of the wall,26:38the store just keeps going.26:40Like a copy of itself.26:43I figure they're using mirrors or something26:44to hide the entrance.26:45I don't know.26:45Sorry, I'm not following you.26:47Is this a room you didn't know about before?26:49No.26:50Okay, so...26:51You go in, and at first it just looks like an office building,26:55like a huge office building.26:58But then you keep going, and then you realize27:02that none of it makes any sense.27:05It's like, imagine describing a dog to someone27:07who's never seen one before and then asking them to draw it.27:10They might get some things right,27:12but there's no way they'd get everything right.27:14The devil's in the details.27:15So from a distance, you look at it, you think you're seeing a dog,27:17but then you look closer.27:19Why are you looking at me like that?27:21I'm just trying to understand.27:24Oh You know for a shrink you got a terrible poker face What you saying might sound fantastical but not dangerous27:37Are there any people in these offices?27:41Not that I've seen.27:43You know, I hear, um, there's footsteps and stuff gets moved around when I'm not looking.27:48I know how this sounds, but you gotta understand, it's massive in there.27:52Like New York subway system. Massive.27:54For all I know, there's hundreds of people. I just haven't seen them.28:04You see? It's like a...28:06It's like a maze. It just goes on and on and on.28:10Sometimes I'm scared I'll get lost.28:15Why do you think no one else has found this place?28:19I don't know. The entrance is on the subfloor,28:21so the whole structure's probably underground.28:24You know, it's not on any city maps.28:26The entrances are hidden, so who'd think to look?28:31I'm not saying I don't believe you.28:33But you told me yourself you haven't had a drink since Friday.28:37Do you think there's...28:38Clark, if this is true...28:41I get it, I get it. Thank you.28:43No, I'm going to come back here with proof.28:48And you're going to owe me a serious fucking apology.28:54Cat!28:55Jesus, now, Cat, I'm coming.29:01Hey.29:02Hey, Captain Clark?29:03Um...29:04Wait, wait, wait, wait, Cat?29:05I'm coming.29:06Cat!29:07Okay, I'm coming.29:08Look.29:09What the fuck?29:10Yeah, I'm sorry.29:11Uh, I'm sorry.29:12Uh, I'm sorry.29:22I'm sorry. What are you guys doing tomorrow?29:25What are you talking about?29:27I'll pay you. Two hours. Overtime. Tops.29:29Okay, pay us for what?29:33Research.29:36You got the camera, right? Or you can borrow it again.29:40Right?29:49Okay, we are rolling.29:52We got some shit over here.29:56We got some stop signs and a rope.30:00What's the rope for?30:01Supplies.30:02Great, he's gonna tie us up.30:04No, we're gonna tie ourselves up.30:07Oh, Kinky.30:08Uh, you still haven't told us what we're doing here, man.30:11I did tell you.30:13Research.30:14These are supplies and we're using them for research.30:16It's not that hard to understand.30:18Okay, research for what?30:20You gotta be more specific, dude.30:24I'm gonna go through the door.30:26What door?30:30That's the door.30:32I taped an outline on the other side too just to help us find our way back.30:36Poppy?30:38What?30:46Dude, it's like 9pm. What the fuck?30:48Whoa!30:50What the fuck?30:52Did you just fucking see that? How did he...30:54Right here! Come see for yourself!30:56Did you just fucking...30:58What the fuck?31:00Bobby, stop.31:02Clark, where are you?31:04Babe, did you see that? Where the fuck did he go?31:07Yes, Bobby!31:12Dude, how is this possible?31:15Bobby?31:16Clark, where are you? What the fuck is that?31:19No, no, no, Kat, it's good. It's good. Just, you gotta come see this.31:23I mean, right, you see, see, it's, um, it's fine.31:30Where are we?31:32That's what I'm trying to figure out.31:35Who's, um, who's shit is this?31:37Is it, is it, is it part of your store?31:39If it belongs to someone, I haven't met him yet.31:41Okay.31:42I've been in here every night since I found a place and I still barely scratched the surface.31:46Come on, I'll show you.31:48It only gets better.31:51So, um, it's like, what, like an empty office building?31:56In here? Sure.31:57But it's like it was made by a bunch of construction workers on acid.32:00I mean, there's even a pool.32:02There's a pool?32:03Yeah.32:04I mean, kind of.32:05Keep up.32:08Pots.32:12Okay.32:13All right, you filming?32:14Yeah.32:15I don't see why Bobby has to be the one to go.32:17I want to.32:18Well, he's the one with the camera.32:19Well, it's not like it's attached.32:21Yeah, well, I mean, to my student ID, yeah, it kind of is.32:24Any trouble you just give a tug and I pull you up okay The trouble clerk went fucking through There not gonna be any trouble Babe babe babe it good It good I good Baby you don have to do this No it cool I just want to see what down there32:35Are you not curious?32:36This is stupid!32:37Just go as far as you can, okay?32:39Look, look, you can basically walk down without a rope.32:41It's fine.32:41It's not even Steve.32:44Okay, just one thing.32:45If I don't come back, you'll tell my mom I love her, right?32:51All right, okay.32:52All right, just take it slow.32:55Oh, that is actually kind of steep.33:01You good?33:02Yep, just try not to drop me.33:05Kat!33:08Where are we?33:11We have to go now, Clark.33:12We have to go.33:13He's going to come back.33:14He's going to find me.33:15I don't understand.33:17Where are you?33:18Please, let me the fuck in.33:21But it's a wall.33:23Oh, how can you see me?33:26I'm on the other side of the glass.33:28How can you not see me?33:30What glass? What the fuck are you talking about?33:33What are you talking about?33:35Look, can you see anything on your side?33:37Can you see a handle, a door, is there a hatch, anything?33:42No, no, no, no, no.33:44Okay, let me figure this out, okay? Just hold on.33:47Hold on, okay?33:49Just, just, look.33:53Just let me...33:54Clark!33:55Just go around and figure this out!33:56Let me figure this out!33:57Clark!34:01Behind you!34:02We've landed on the crystal shores of a bountiful land, a land filled with great deals.34:08So drop your anchors and come on down to Captain Clark's Ottoman Empire, yet lost in an endless34:15sea of quality tables, chairs, couches, and bedroom sets.34:20and votes for the Scaliwax's quarters.34:23We've got it all!34:24And that price is so low,34:26you'll break the door from your door!34:37Clark.34:41You found it.34:50Are you hiding?34:54You being too loud35:13It's...35:17every place that ever was.35:25How long have you been here?35:33What was that?35:41Stay calm.35:47It's only me.35:51You know me.35:55I'm sorry.36:10Behaviors.36:15They keep you drifting in circles.36:19Creating the same problems.36:22Reaching for the same solutions.36:25over and over again.36:30Still, it's the neural pathway of least resistance.36:38The one I made,36:41the one that kept me safe when I was a child.36:46You know,36:48I learned to push people away before they could hurt me.36:52And now, as an adult, I'm still stuck.36:59Right where I started.37:04Alone.37:07What is this?37:10It's a real mess. Am I right?37:14Clark, let me help you.37:17Before you do anything you can't take back...37:22Answer the question.37:24Yes It a real mess But also beautiful in a way no37:41Who are these people?37:45This place builds them.37:47Well, actually, more like it remembers them.37:51And the more times it remembers something, the less it does.37:57Somewhere out there is a guy in a striped shirt, but in here he's remembered.38:07Just slightly wrong.38:10Somewhere out there is a man in a wheelchair and a lamp.38:21I'm pretty sure that's how you get all of this.38:26You know, all these places and rooms and buildings misremembering themselves.38:34Clark, let's talk this through.38:38In some ways, they're an improvement on the originals.38:44For starters, they can't feel anything.38:51Can you imagine how good that must feel?39:04I mean, there's no thoughts, no pain, no ego, no fear.39:13They simply exist.39:17Just like furniture.39:24Look at this.39:26The best part.39:31You can eat them.39:47I'm sorry.40:00Oh.40:15This is my assistant manager.40:21I tried to help her, but she just...40:23Clark?40:24If you untie me, we can talk this through, get you feeling better.40:30Yeah, well, what if I did untie you?40:32You know what, then?40:34You'd run around here like a chicken with his head cut off looking for a way out.40:38But you'd end up in the same place you are now.40:42Like the path thing you're always talking about.40:46Clark, I just want to help you.40:49Just tell me what you need.40:51I'll do it.40:54Yeah?40:55Yeah. Yes, please.41:00Okay.41:03Well, I want you to tell me that I didn't do anything wrong, you know, that you were wrong about me.41:08I was wrong about you. I was. I was wrong about you.41:12No, no, no, not like that. Not so fast, okay?41:18I mean, I wanna set the scene first.41:24Let's start, um, well, the night that, uh, that I got kicked out of my own house.41:33It was, um, it was late.41:40A lot darker.41:45Lights, please.41:54I tried this exercise with her before. It doesn't go anywhere.42:02Fine. I'll do it myself.42:06It's still my house, after all.42:11Yeah.42:15That's better.42:18But there's...42:19still...42:22something off.42:24I sorry Clark please42:55Come on.43:07Here.43:15No, please. Don't. Don't.43:25I'm sorry.43:40I'm sorry.43:41I broke the glass43:43and woke you up.43:48I know how you like to sleep early.43:55I was at the store late.43:58I guess I lost track of the time.44:03I was checking inventory, but...44:07I stopped off for a few beers.44:09Clark.44:10Barbara!44:12I was checking inventory.44:16Then I stopped off for a few beers.44:19Define a few.44:25As many as I wanted.44:28Because this is my house.44:31I pay for it.44:33I pay for everything.44:35I pay for you to go to school.44:37I pay for your time off school.44:40I pay for the roof over your head.44:43You want kids, right?44:46Well, that takes money.44:47So someone has to work around here.44:49I said someone has to get off her fat ass and work around here.44:54Just because you didn get to be an architect I am a fucking architect I just stuck selling shit furniture because someone won get off her fat fucking ass and help me45:05I'm not your wife.45:06Stay in character.45:08Stay in character.45:09I've never even met her.45:12Fuck you.45:16What did you say?45:17You want to know the real reason your wife left you?45:20It wasn't the drinking or the stumbling home at all hours45:23or the rage.45:25It was the whining.45:27Nothing's ever your fault, is it?45:29You drink too much? Blame your job.45:32You hate your job? Blame the world.45:34You get kicked out of the house?45:36Blame your wife.45:38You attack me and tie me up?45:40Blame your brain.45:41You are your fucking brain, you dipshit.45:48You say it's my fault.45:50Yes, but it's just the way you're wired, isn't it?45:52Isn't it?46:02How do I stop doing that?46:05Honestly, I have no fucking idea.46:10I can't help you, Clark.46:13As much as I tried.46:16It's just not up to me.46:17I can't save anyone.46:32Phil.46:36I don't think I want to change.46:41I don't.46:47I like it in here.46:56For the first time in a long time, I feel like I'm...46:59like I'm right where I'm supposed to be.47:08Then stay.47:12Right where you are.47:17But let me call.47:34Oh I sorry47:49For what?48:19What are you doing in here?48:33This is Mary.48:37She's our therapist.48:40She was just leaving.48:43No, no.48:46You don't have to worry.48:49She says we don't need to change.49:04It's okay.49:07It's just the way we're wired.49:19AHHHHHHHHH!49:49I'm not going to die.50:00No.50:30Oh, my God.51:30Oh God52:00Oh, my God!52:30No!